We all have them; they are like mini vacations for our brains when they are overloaded.  They can also be useful for working sh*t out; we use them when we worry, when we tire; when we are bored, or scared or inattentive.

Did you know, I didn’t, but I think it’s interesting, that you have less and less of them as you get older, and the reason for that appears to be because as we get older, the way to deal with unpleasant things is something that we have a strategy for?  Young people are more likely to daydream about worrying situations, us old guys (sorry), we use daydreams to take us out of a situation when we need a little time away from everyday life.


For myself, I deliberately use them to help with the pain, as you know I am always in flare, so every day I take a little time away in my head, it helps me cope.  Sometimes it’s a couple of minutes; sometimes it’s up to half an hour.  I go to an imaginary place in my mind where it is always summer, and I am sitting on the dock of a cabin beside a lake, I can hear the birds singing, the leaves rustling in the wind, even boats going by on the other side of the lake.  It’s peaceful, and there is no pain there.

I often wonder if others with chronic illness do the same thing, do you get away from your body for a little bit every day?


At my age now, there is not much that worries me, my husband having prostate cancer, my son getting married, those are the kind of things that pick at my brain.  

I remember the very first time I was going to have to get up in front of people and make a short speech; I went over it and over it in my mind; deliberately imagining the worst that could happen.  For example, you stand up to speak, and nothing but gibberish comes out of your mouth, and everyone is looking at you with their heads’ cocked like a dog’s wondering what the hell I am saying; or I stand up open my mouth, and nothing comes out. 

I tried very hard to imagine every possibility except the one that actually happened.  I stood up and went completely blank, I had no idea why I was there, what I as talking about, absolutely blank; then I started laughing and told everyone what had happened, they all laughed along with me, not at me, and then the whole thing came flooding back, and we carried on.


  • You are neither asleep nor awake when you daydream, you are in a place where you are not aware of things around you, but if you had to come to attention quickly you could.
  • Sigmund Freud used to deliberately dream about a naked Greta Garbo riding on a horse.  I wonder if he ever psychoanalysed himself.  Hmmmmm.
  • Daydreaming is a right brain thing, according to neuroscientists what happens is that you are using your left brain for some kind of work that is not stimulating, so your right brain takes over and gives you a vision of something more entertaining to focus on.
  • Athletes, Musicians, and Business leaders deliberately use it to envision positive outcomes for their efforts.  We have all heard of the system of visualising what you want, see it happening, and voila` it happens, turns out that this is a form of daydreaming but used deliberately, kind of like my lakeside getaway.
  • Those few moments that you are somewhere else can relieve stress, improve mindset, foster creativity and refreshes the body, mind, and spirit.
  • Daydreaming may give you access to areas of your brain that retain information, so that when you ‘wake’ you may have come up with some magical insight into a problem or creatively come up with a way of solving a problem.
  • The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as a “pleasant visionary, usually wishful creation of the imagination”.  By that definition, it appears that daydreaming is proving to be a lot like the mini vacation I mentioned at the outset.
  • It’s noted that daydreaming improves performance and productivity, and is thought to be a sign of an active and healthy brain.  It seems to be a good indication of the brain’s ability to retain and recall information in the face of distractions, or as they say ‘working memory.’



I searched and searched for anything that there might be on using daydreaming to; or if daydreaming helps with coping with the pain and other symptoms of chronic illness.  There was no literature that I could find on the benefits of it, but there were articles on how it can be bad for you.  

They call it Maladaptive Daydreaming, it is where you get so into the daydreaming you can’t, or somehow you forget to, or you choose not to return to real life.  This becomes a disorder all its own, let’s not do that.

I use it when my left eye goes blind, when all of a sudden my arms aren’t working, or when the fibro fog gets so bad that just thinking becomes impossible.



If you have never done it deliberately, let me give you a couple of pointers.  The first time or the second time you try it may not work, but keep at it day after day and eventually, you will be at the lakeside cabin or a beach in the Caribbean, or a chalet in the Swiss Alps, whatever peace is for you.

Build it slowly in your mind, make sure you include everything that would make you feel calm and worry free.  If you are on the beach, hear the waves falling on the beach, the seabirds crying about the fish that got away.  Or, if the Swiss Chalet is your idea of peace, smell the wood from the fire, hear the wind blowing the snow against the windows. Every day add a little bit more until it is the perfect place for you.  

Even if you can only get there a couple of times a week, it seems to help with getting through the tough days.  Those days when you are curled up in a ball because the pain is so bad, go to your peaceful place, and the pain doesn’t follow, it may only be a brief respite, but at least it’s something.

Daydream deliberately, it is the only way that I know of to get away from the pain; and I know that some days nothing will help, but give it a try.  Just don’t forget to come back.




Today’s little nugget of goodness is an online shopping site called Zulily.  I love and use it at least a couple of times a week, who am I kidding, I go there every day to see what’s new.  You sign up, and then every morning they send you an email with what’s new on the site.

At this time of year, they always seem to have sales on things that I admired back in the fall as well as things for spring and summer.  Yesterday, I picked up three tops, one for $6.99 and the other two for $9.99, now these were tops that went for over $50.00 each back in the fall, so I just indicated I liked them by highlighting the little heart; and every time they come back around I get a notification that something I liked will be on tomorrow’s New Today list.

Now, you have to be careful, because they only have so many in each of the sizes and they are only there for a set amount of time, but if you pay attention to the prices when you see them originally, and they bring them back around at sale time you can get a pretty good deal.  These items are all discounted anyway, and then they go on sale.

You can get things like Michael Kors purses, or Kate Spade.  Ray Bans that are still ridiculously expensive even with a discount, but there are knock-offs that are very similar.  Coach stuff, and Jessica Simpson clothing and accessories, there are shoes and stuff for kids and babies. Some of it is just crazy expensive, but others are a really good deal.

My latest purchases, were sheet sets, 700 thread count and I got them for 29.99 for a queen set, I bought three, then I saw a comforter set that was lovely, and I got it for less than $30.  Believe me; they have everything from things for your pets, to curtains for the windows, home decor and storage, to bathing suits and jewellery and every now and then they have stuff for the office or planners.  Honestly, you could go crazy on this site.

I just went on the site a few minutes ago to see if I could find any particular deals, and what I found was a high-end clothing line for kids clothes that are on up to 75% off.  The page that I looked at they had a little boys outfit, probably for between 1 -2 years old, regularly $91.00 for $16.99, and a little girl’s really pretty party dress that was regularly $102.00 for $19.99

So, go and have a look at Zulily.com, you might be surprised at what you find. And no, I have no affiliation with them, I just love the site.




Whether you’re experiencing an episode of depression in this season or it has been an ongoing battle, here are 11 quotes to encourage your spirit.


I love Pinterest; they always have something that touches me in some way.  I thought this one went along well with the Daydreams post.  As usual, though, there is no mention of the author, so I will just say that I am grateful that someone put pen to paper for this one.

Be proud of who you are and what you can offer the world because don’t forget even if like me you don’t get out much; you still have a voice that can be heard if you want it to be.

Fairy Garden update, had no time at all on the project this week.  I’m taking too many courses right now, and they are all taking up my time.  But, in the end, it will be worth it, I hope because I will be able to talk to you much easier and give you so much more than I have until now.



Do you ever wonder if there’s someone in your house that you don’t know about, and he, she, or it spends an awful lot of time screwing around with things?   Like your favourite coffee mug is not in the cupboard, it is now located in the pot drawer, or the sweater you were planning on wearing and that should have been in your closet is somehow in the basement with a dog lying on it; weird things that happen and there is no reason for it.

No, I’m not talking about a ghost, I’m talking about Mr I Don’t Know.  My kids are adults now but Mr I Don’t Know still shows up almost every day.   He plays with our minds and tricks us into believing we are losing ours because you know as well as I do if I ask ‘who dunnit’ (had to, lol) then the answer will always be I don’t know.

Mr I Don’t Know has lived in my house since my kids learned to speak, funny how that happened.  I always assumed (and yes we know what that means) that he would move to somebody else’s house when the kids got old enough.  I’m just not sure now, what’s old enough.

Willie and Bailey have been their usual selves, running around the house, sounding like elephants on the stairs (how is that possible for two such small dogs) and ripping apart anything that has even the slightest stuffing.  I use to hope that when Bailey came, she would be a good influence on Willie and things wouldn’t be unstuffed anymore, I should have known better.

Well here are some new pictures of the little darlings:

Daydreams - Bailey on the run
Bailey on the Run


Daydreams - Willie and Bailey in the sun
Willie and Bailey enjoying the sunny day


Daydreams - Willie & Bailey with Mummy's Cane
They never look at you at the same time, no matter how hard I try








Caramel Apples with Pork Steaks


Daydreams - Recipe - Caramel Apples with Pork Steaks
Ready to Eat – Caramel Apples with Pork Steaks, Steamed Broccoli, and Rice. Oh, can’t forget the Caramel Sauce!




OK, that about does it for this week.  Just a reminder to take care of you, have fun, laugh alot, and take time to be grateful for the life you have even if it isn’t the one you wanted.

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Have a great week and a terrific weekend, Happy Mother’s Day to all of you, whether it is fur babies or real ones.

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