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25 THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT LIFE BY BEING KICKED IN THE BUTT

25 THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT LIFE BY BEING KICKED IN THE BUTT

25 THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT LIFE BY BEING KICKED IN THE BUTT

 

25 THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT LIFE BY BEING KICKED IN THE BUTT
LIFE’S LESSONS LEARNED

 

I don’t know if it’s just me or not, but the only way I seem to learn lessons about life is when I get kicked in the butt by them.  I am spitting distance from 59 years old and I thought that I might pass some of them along now so, that you don’t have to wait for them to kick you in the butt.

LESSON 1.  LIFE ISN’T FAIR, BUT IT’S STILL WORTH LIVING.

– A couple of years ago, I was deep down into the darkness that is depression.  For me, it was like this black hole that I couldn’t get out of.  I couldn’t see the point of getting up or doing anything because this was going to go on forever.  I started wondering what kind of future I’d have and if it was worth hanging around to find out.  

THEN, came the kick in the butt.  I had a friend that had just recently been confined to a wheelchair because she couldn’t walk anymore, it sort of rattled around in my head and made me think about what did I really have to be depressed about.  I at least, could still walk, not far and with a gait that looked more like a drunken sailor in port for the first time in 6 months, but I could.  

So, I needed a cane, at least I wasn’t permanently in a wheelchair, I kind of gave myself a slap upside of the head and learned the lesson life was trying to teach me.  There is always someone much worse off than you.  Live your life, that’s what it’s for.  Don’t let darkness rob you of the joy that is out there if you look for it.

OK, OK, I promise the rest of them won’t be that long.   

I do have a tendency to ramble, don’t I?  LOL

LESSON 2.  DON’T LET YOUR PAST INFLUENCE OR DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE

A Lesson we all need to learn at some point. See it for what it is right now, don’t wait and let it kick you in the butt.

LESSON 3.  DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS IN ANY FACET OF YOUR LIFE.  

Their journey has been completely different from yours.  Live your life, not someone else’s.

LESSON 4.  DON’T SAVE ANYTHING FOR A SPECIAL OCCASION

Every day is special, so use your china and the good linens.  Use anything and everything you have, if you only use it once or twice a year why have it?

LESSON 5.  YOU KNOW THE OLD ADAGE “WHAT DOESN’T KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGER” IT REALLY IS TRUE.

LESSON 6.  KINDNESS IS THE GREATEST GIFT, GIVE IT OFTEN.

 

KINDNESS IS THE GREATEST GIFT, GIVE IT OFTEN
KINDNESS IS THE GREATEST GIFT, GIVE IT OFTEN

 

LESSON 7.  LOVE WITH EVERYTHING YOU HAVE, YOU MIGHT GET HURT, BUT EVERY DAMN DAY WILL HAVE BEEN WORTH IT.

LESSON 8.  HAPPINESS DOES NOT DERIVE FROM OUTSIDE SOURCES, IT BEGINS IN YOU.

There are people all over the world looking for something to make them happy.  It only happens in you, and you are the only one that can make it happen for you.

LESSON 9.  IF PEOPLE THINK YOU’RE CRAZY, LET THEM, AND ENJOY YOURSELF ANYWAY.

Have you heard the old saying that “Life isn’t about getting caught out in the storm, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”?  So what if they think you’re crazy, do it anyway.

LESSON 10.  THE DEFINITION OF LIFE IS CHANGE, WELCOME IT, DON’T FEAR IT.

LESSON 11.  DO NOT BELIEVE THAT LIFE WILL ALWAYS GO YOU’RE WAY, THE BAD STUFF HAS A WAY OF SNEAKING UP ON YOU.

LESSON 12.  THE BAD STUFF DOESN’T LAST FOREVER, JUST KEEP MOVING FORWARD AND SOON IT WILL BE LEFT BEHIND.

LESSON 13.  REMEMBER LIFE IS FULL OF LITTLE MOMENTS, TAKE THE TIME TO NOTICE THEM AND REMEMBER THEM.

If you are too busy to notice the little moments; when you are old and grey and sitting in that rocking chair what will your life have been about?  The amount of work you managed to do?  Think on that one for a while, it’ll come to you.

LESSON 14.  TAKE THE TIME TO LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN, NOT JUST WHEN YOU’RE IN THE ROOM, BUT ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU ARE NOT.

It will tell you how you are doing as a parent.  Children are little mirrors, they reflect what they see.  What are your’s reflecting?

LESSON 15.  THE SAYING THAT “PEOPLE MIGHT NOT REMEMBER WHAT YOU SAID, BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL” HOLDS MORE TRUE FOR YOUR CHILDREN THAN ANY ONE ELSE.

The everyday stuff won’t be remembered entirely by your children, but the feeling that they got from you every day will be.  Be there and Love them with all your heart.

LESSON 16.  BEING WRONG IS OK, IF YOU TRIED YOUR BEST, AND IF YOU ADMIT IT.  NOBODY’S PERFECT.

LESSON 17.  EVERY DAY TAKE 10 MINUTES AND SIT OUTSIDE.  RAIN, SUN, SNOW, OR COLD, DOESN’T MATTER.  CLOSE YOUR EYES  AND LISTEN.

There is something magical about doing this every day.  In the City you can hear the hum of the cars on the roadways, you can hear the sounds of people interacting, the screech of breaks and the sirens of the services as they rush to protect or attend you.  

If you are not in the city, but out in the suburbs or countryside, hear the wind in the leaves, the sounds of the birds in the trees, the hum of insects, and the distant sounds around your area.  

If it’s raining, hear the sound of the rain hitting the pavement, or hitting the leaves, hear it dancing along the roadway or the fence, and if you watch at that time, you will see that as the rain hits the water on the road, it looks like fairies dancing.   

If it’s snowing, listen to the quiet, how everything has a sound of being muffled.    

Take a couple of deep breaths and let peace fill your soul.  

If it’s a raging blizzard then what the hell are you doing outside, are you nuts? LOL.

LESSON 18.  DON’T LET DEAD WEIGHT DRAG YOU DOWN, TOXIC PEOPLE ONLY SERVE THEMSELVES.

LESSON 19.  THERE IS ALWAYS SUNSHINE COMING, MAYBE NOT TODAY OR TOMORROW, BUT IT IS ON IT’S WAY.  LOOK TOWARDS THE GOOD.

LESSON 20.  TAKE THAT LEAP, LIFE IS FOR LIVING.  JUST JUMP!

LIFE IS FOR LIVING, JUST JUMP
TAKE THAT LEAP

 

LESSON 21.  PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR FINANCES.

LESSON 22.  EAT HEALTHY WHEN YOU CAN, BUT DON’T MISS OUT ON THE GOOD STUFF.

Looking like a 20-year-old in a bikini may be nice, but this too shall pass.  Everybody Ages. So enjoy the good stuff when you can and eat healthy the rest of the time.

LESSON 23.  BE YOURSELF, LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE IMITATING SOMEONE ELSE.

LESSON 24.  YOUR CHILDREN HAVE LESSONS TO TEACH YOU, WATCH AND LEARN.

They can teach you how to just let go and have fun, stop worrying about what the neighbours might think, just go for it.  They can also teach you about taking chances, the child who is drawing doesn’t care if it’s not perfect, they are just enjoying it.  The Lesson is life doesn’t have to be perfect, just enjoy it.

LESSON 25.  I HAVE SEEN THIS A COUPLE OF TIMES ON PINTEREST AND I HAVE ADDED IT TO MY LESSONS LEARNED.

Be the person that when your feet hit the ground in the morning, the Devil says “Oh Sh*t, She’s/He’s up.”  Take charge, be strong, look out for others, and never take crap from anyone. 

 

THINGS I LOVE, USE, OR MAKE 

My favourite thing at this time of year is to just take a few minutes each day and watch the play of light on the leaves of the trees and bushes around my backyard.  Today, I am not giving you a long post, I am giving you a series of pictures so that you too can enjoy the light and shadow that plays out on the leaves.

 

Light and Shadow on the ground
Light and Shadow on the ground

 

Light and Shadow in the bushes
Light and Shadow in the bushes

 

Light and Shadow in the Trees
Light and Shadow in the Trees

 

This next item that you see, I couldn’t resist.  You will see the light and shadow on the ground, but it’s really just a video of my fur babies Willie & Bailey.

 

 

 

QUOTE OF THE WEEK

This week we have another quote from Brene Brown.  Of all the personal development books I have read, Brene Brown’s has had the most lasting impression.  She has multiple books out and all of them are great.  I just got finished the Audible version of  The Gifts of Imperfection, and I am still working on processing everything she said.  If you want a damn good read or a great audio book grab any one of Brene’s Books, you won’t be disappointed.

 

“AUTHENTICITY IS THE DAILY PRACTICE OF LETTING GO OF WHO WE THINK WE’RE SUPPOSED TO BE, AND EMBRACING WHO WE ARE.”

 

It kind of works with today’s post, don’t you think?  Be your Authentic Self.

 

 

FAMILY LIFE 

 

This week I just wanted to touch a little bit on how being a chronic illness family impacts on the other members of the household.  I have not talked to my children about how they feel about my illness, not really, it has just been a given for the last four years.  

I suppose that is entirely selfish and thoughtless of me, but they have had my back from day one so I never thought about how they feel about it.  I know that I have told you that all I have to do is ask and my kids jump to help, but I have never thought to ask how inconvenient or how having to watch me struggle some days makes them feel.  

I guess that is a conversation that is going to have to happen, and I am not going to be asking them for their typical pat answer, I really want to know what impact my illness has had on them.  I think I’m scared to find out.

I have had the conversation with my husband of course.   

In fact, we did this online quiz once about how each of us writes down five words on how we feel about or see me ( or the one who is ill).  

My words went like this:  Guilty, Scared, Weak, Failing, and a Disappointment.  

Hawkeye’s words made me cry, he chose:  Brave, Strong, Fighter, Loving, and Beautiful.  

I still have them written down in my journal and I look at them every single day, to remind me to live up to what he believes me to be.  

I hope your support is as strong.

 

 

RECIPE OF THE WEEK 

 

I found a new site for recipes that I love.  Well, it’s new to me, some of you may have heard of it already.  It’s called Creme De La Crumb and can be found at https://www.lecremedelacrumb

It has great quick and easy recipes.  The ones I like best are the 30-minute meals, but I like some of the crock pot recipes too.  Actually, I haven’t found anything that I don’t like.  The following were my lineup for this week.   

Sunday:  One Pan Spanish Chicken and Rice    

Monday:  Meatless Monday – One Pot Creamy Tuscan Garlic Spaghetti   

Tuesday:  One Pot Enchilada Orzo – I’m going to add ground beef to this one.  My husband puts up with one Meatless night per week because I asked him to.   

Wednesday:  One Pan Brown Sugar Pork & Apples – I’m going to replace the pork tenderloin with sausages.   

Thursday:  Slow Cooker Smoky Mountain Chicken   

Friday:  Hawaiian Hamburger Steaks   

Saturday:  One Sheet Pan Chicken Fried Rice   

As you can see I love one pan or pot meals, the fewer dishes I use the better I like it.  This site has loads of them in different categories.  I am not an affiliate for the site or anything like that, I just love the recipes.  Have a look, I am sure you will like them too.  

Well that’s it for this week, everyone, I would love to hear anything that you have to add to my list of Lessons Learned and if you try the recipes, let me know what you tried and how you liked it.  

There are two ways to let me know what you think, either through the comments or the contact me page. Just drop me a line and let me know what you think.

 

Take care and have a great week.

 

 

 

 

 

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2 Replies to “25 THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT LIFE BY BEING KICKED IN THE BUTT”

  1. I love your tips Barb. These are seriously so good and a few of them made me stop and really ask myself when’s the last time I’ve thought of that or considered it. Such beautiful reminders. Thank you for posting!

    1. Thanks, Brianne, if you can think of any lessons you’ve learned the hard way, could you share them with me?
      By the way, I meant to tell you the last time you contacted me that I had checked out your site again and I really love everything about it from the colours to the setup. May I ask you a question, I know that you are a branding genius, do you have any tips that you think could make my site better?

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